When most people start to explore sex in their teens, they are conditioned to follow one simple rule: men should be stimulated externally, whereas women should be pleasured internally. I mean, it makes sense doesn't it- think about a peg and a hole, it’s the same principle. But sex just isn’t as black and white as that, and pleasure can be accessed through different avenues. Anal sex and stimulation is a widely practised activity amongst most homosexual men and a lot of women. However, as a result of negative stigmas and its association with homosexuality, a lot of heterosexual men are starving themselves of this different kind of pleasure. For many, this is uncomfortable territory and it shouldn’t be explored its basically a taboo!
But now more than ever, men across the world are beginning to realise that anal stimulation is not only normal but is also seriously pleasurable and benefits your health. From experimental couples to men buying anal sex toys, this new ‘trend’ is becoming more widely recognised. However, if you’re not quite ready to come clean yet, here are a few tips on how to give yourself the prostate massage of a lifetime- all in the privacy of your own home. So loosen up and have a read.
1. Make sure you prepare
Curious about butt play? We don’t blame you, but it’s really important to prepare before you dive right it. As you are well aware, this area can be ‘messy’ (We are just being honest), so if you don’t use proper techniques and take it slowly, you could risk having a very embarrassing accident- if you catch my drift! The best way to avoid this is by douching beforehand. This will flush all of the crap out of your body (literally) so you won’t have to worry about making a mess during your session. The skin around the anus is pretty sensitive, so we would always recommend trimming down your nails and thoroughly showering beforehand. Preparation is key.
More importantly, the key to a prostate massage is relaxation. The tenser your body is the more uncomfortable and difficult it will be. Prostate massages can be intimidating, especially if you’ve never done it before, and your mind won't let you loosen up! So make sure you’re as relaxed as possible. Dim the lights, scatter some candles around the room and make sure you’re comfortable. You could even have a glass of wine if it would help- but be sure to have your wits about you when trying this for the first couple of times.
2. Lube up!
Unlike the vagina, the anus is not really designed for penetration and therefore doesn’t produce natural lubrication. Unless you want to walk around with clenched butt cheeks for the next week, we would highly recommend using a lube that is high quality. If you’ve personally never used it before, make sure to read the instructions on the bottle and use it correctly. If you’re using toys, drizzle some liquid onto it before insertion for easier access. Either way, the moral of the story is: Lube is a must! Don't go in RAW!
3. Don’t be afraid to use toys
The thought of using toys might sound daunting, but it really doesn’t have to be. Unfortunately, a great deal of men aren’t able to use their own fingers for various reasons when it comes to prostate massaging. Many have mobility issues and have trouble positioning their bodies, whereas others may find it awkward and uncomfortable; either way, there are ways around it. The Aneros Prostate Massager is designed specifically for pleasure, comfort and easy use. The wavy-shaped, relatively small device comes with a removable finger loop for easy removal and a ‘p-tab’ that settles against the perineum for mind-blowing, toe curling pleasure. These devices can be purchased from pretty much any sex shop, and come in a variety of sizes and styles depending on your preference. We live in a world of equality people, so if women can use dildos, you can use prostate massagers! And with them easily available discreetly online you don't have to wander into a shop to buy one if you are a bit embarrassed.
4. Make sure you locate the prostate gland
Obviously the point of this massage is to stimulate the prostate, but for you first timers, you need to know what you’re looking for. The Prostate is a small gland located between the bladder and the penis. It is about the size of a walnut and feels like round in shape- almost like a ball. The prostate is incredibly sensitive, so by touching massaging or pushing against it will send waves of pleasure through your body. Whether you choose to manually stimulate it or opt for an instrument, do not be alarmed if any fluids begin to leak from the end of your penis. Prostate Massages are also known as a ‘milking service’, because when the prostate is massaged, it encourages trapped fluid to leave the body. This might alarm you, but rest assured, it’s actually really healthy, and feels dammmmnnnn good!
5. Experiment
Like anything, it’s always a good idea to try something more than once to really get a feel for it. If you’ve never ventured to your backdoor before, it might be uncomfortable or even painful the first time you try it- but this is normal, and you just need to push passed it. Start using your finger (if you can) and massaging as little or as much as feels good for you. Once you’re comfortable, consider using a toy next time around.
Alternatively, if you’re in a couple, get your significant other to give you a massage. It might be a little embarrassing at first for both of you, but it’s a very intimate experience and will actually bring you closer together. Sexual experimentation is healthy for couples, and this is no different. Have fun with it; establish your likes and dislikes. It might just be the best pleasure you’ll ever experience.
Giving yourself or receiving a Prostate Massage is nothing to be ashamed about. They are medically recognised as being a great exercise for promoting healthy prostates, but also feel insanely good. Whether you’re having some issues with your prostate or just want to broaden your sexual horizons, you will not regret giving it a go- trust us!
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